This year intake to local universities is dominated again by girls. It is not surprising that 65% or 2 out of 3 successful applicants this year are girls since girls work much harder than boys. Boys are playful and not serious enough in their study. Imposing quota will only create ill-feeling and injustice since those girls that we are talking about might be our daughters, nieces and girl-friends.
There are many reasons why girls seem to dominate university entrance. I believe, our educational highway provides lot of exits for boys to stop by. Take for example, GIAT MARA, community college and polytechnic. To some extent, it is good to provide vocational training for those who cannot pursue their study in a scholarly pedantic way. Unfortunately, many would just stop over and find easy way out to earn little money to support their life. In doing so, many find hard to pursue their study as a result of heavy commitment to the new life.
Malay society in particular impose many rules and restrictions to girls. They are expected to behave in some particular ways. In many situations, girls are expected to help raising younger siblings when parents go to work. They clean the house, cook food for their family and complement domestic duties of the mother. When they grow-up, they seem to master their live in a short span of time. As we were told by a scholar, “If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders.” Responsibility makes girls work hard in school. As a result, many earn good points or CGPAs which entitle them to take up good courses in university.
Epidemiological studies on the prevalence of child and adolescent psychiatric disorders world wide revealed that boys outnumbered girls in the prevalence of externalizing problem behaviors such as ADHD, conduct and oppositional defiant disorders as well as substance abuse and dependence. Many of them would be school drop-outs and would likely to acquire low salary jobs and suffer tremendous life events such as financial and marital problems which later lead to substance abuse and dependence. The figure released by National Anti-Narcotic Agency showed that majority (97.3%) of drug addicts in rehabilitation centers throughout the country are male.
So, let us resort back to the statement released by Datuk Dr Radin Umar Radin Sohadi, DG of Higher Education Dept, Ministry of Higher Education that the Ministry is not gender biased and there is no way the ministry can stabilize university intake involving genders as admission is strictly based on meritocracy. So keep the status quo, please..
I was away for the last 2 days attending Meeting on Portal Health, my uncle’s funeral and the Malaysian Conference of Psychological Medicine in KL.
It seems that in the last 2 days I was busy catching up stories with relatives and friends. At the same time, there has been an admixture of feeling from happiness, sad and sorrow to grief and bereavement.
I join my friends in the Ministry of Health to congratulate those who had been appointed to JUSA C. I think, it is an achievement of the life time. Personally, I am not sure whether I could be at par with them or not.
As a result of grief, I had published on my blog word of condolences which says everything from my heart (Memperkasa Paradigma). It was a great loss to me personally. For one who had experienced losing both parents, losing a father-figure is really a blow to the fragile self.
It is also a happiest moment meeting Professor Malhi since we last met and had a lunch together in Singapore last year.
My journey end up well after attending two meetings on agalomelatine and paliperidone depot injection. Nevertheless, my emotional journey continues to flourish my heart and soul so long as I live and breath on the realm of this temporal world (selagi hayat dikandung badan).
1. Take vacations.
2. Find a retreat.
3. Don’t take work home.
4. Stay active in a hobby.
5. Escape for few minutes each day. Pray.
6. Take maximum advantahe of technology.
7. Delegate greater responsibility to subordinates.
8. Limit travel.
9. Ask your spouse for feedback.
10. Reserve time each day for children.
I find many similarities between politicians and doctors in the way they pass over their profession to the offspring.
First and foremost, many parents feel doctor is a noble profession when their children could easily move up the social strata, becoming a doctor is the simple answer to the quest of honor and glory. In some cases, the business entity like clinic and dispensary has to be handed over to the children.
The subconscious motive to many doctors is the need to pass over their legacy of wealth and generosity to the next generation.
It is a believe, to my mind, among some medical professionals that if their offspring fail to become professional equivalent to the parents, the upbringing is default in some ways or another. Becoming a flop family is a disaster. The families often gain less respect among peers and colleagues. Worst still some wive of doctors tend to compare their children achievement as the benchmark of family success. Not to mention on what car they owned and what house they lived in.
When competition is the only game in town when it comes to comparing social status, the inter-family relationship would be difficult.
The same phenomenon has also been observed among teachers as many of them are wealthy resulting from ‘privatization of the teaching profession’ in the beginning of this century.
As society progresses, challenges are unavoidable and social commentaries continue..
When I first decided to write on this blog, I had to challenge myself to write in English. I was not sure whether I could write using perfect English. However, to my mind, most Malaysian, like I am, can write and speak English. Many have inferiority complex.
Malaysians have been thought for so long to watch out for their grammar. As a result, we failed to communicate effectively in English because ‘we are too careful with grammar’.
I think this attitude has to be changed. We have to break the psychological barrier.
Malaysians use a lot of ‘colloquial Malaysian English’ when they communicate to each other. Interestingly, colloquial Malaysian English is not spoken uniformly throughout the country as it depends very much on their mother tongue i.e whether they are Chinese-, Tamil- or Malay-educated.
Let’s borrow an example on Colloquial Malaysian English from Adibah Amin’s work.
Housewife: Your fish so flabby, no good one.
Fishmonger: Like that already hard what. How hard one you want? You want stone, want wood. I can’t find.
Housewife: You half past six lawyer one. Give little bit cheap la, this fish.
Fishmonger: Oh, that’s why you said that kind, said my thing flabby, you want cheap-cheap.
Housewife: You don’t want to give, I look at other places.
Fishmonger: Look, look la, wait you come back look for me also.
Let me just stop here to have a good laugh. Ha..Ha.. Ha..
Some people believe our deep desires arise automatically. As we satisfy one, we automatically experience another and ask for something else. Nearly everyone of us want power, success, knowledge etc. Nearly everybody has desire for those kind of achievement, the exceptions are rare..very rare.
The question is do we consciously choose what we want from life. In another word, is desire predetermined or acquired?
I think we have to agree to the fact that individuals vary in how intense each desire is experienced. Perhaps the individual differences in desire partially reflect genetic variations across individuals. For example some people are born with a strong tendencies toward aggression, others are not. Don’t you think, no two people have exactly the same desire?
Well, now, let us look at this scenario. All parents instinctively love their children. But then we do see children perceive the parental love differently. Why? Because parents express their love differently. In this regard the so call, the desire to express their love differently depends on many factors such as culture, learned habit, religious and moral values. These factors are essentially – the acquired factors.
So, finally do you get what I am trying to illustrate – Basic desires are both predetermined and acquired. Your superego must be strong enough to control them. Have you acquire enough skills to control your desire?
You have the answer!
I presented to my friend a book, “Banker to the Poor” by the Nobel laureate, Prof Mohammad Yunus.
Prof Mohammad Yunus who is known as the “banker to the poor” for making small loans in impoverished countries, is now doing business in the center of capitalism — New York City. In the past year the first U.S. branch of his Grameen Bank has lent $1.5 million, ranging from a few hundred dollars to a few thousand dollars, to nearly 600 women with small business plans in the city’s borough of Queens. Grameen America says its loan repayment rate is more than 99 percent. In fact, U.S. President Barack Obama recently announced the creation of a $100 million microfinance growth fund for small lenders in the Western Hemisphere to allow poor people to continue making loans despite the global recession (1).
It is interesting to note the emerging of new subject in economy called Social Business. It is based on Prof Yunus work, complimented by a statements made by The President of the World Business Council for Sustainable Development Bjorn Stigson, “Business cannot survive in societies that fail.” As Yunus noted, “Half of the world’s population lives on two dollars a day. Over one billion people live on less than a dollar a day.” (2)
Does it means a failure to capitalism as socialism has miserably failed in the Eastern and Central Europe? Does it means the West is learning some wisdom from the East? Leave it to time to tell us the answer.