Shop Till You Drop


Lan bought RM10,000 worth of car accessory a year ago, plunging herself into debt and despair. He knew something was wrong but couldn’t help himself: For hours each day, he admired his newly modified car until he became exhausted. He was also known for his shopping spree for high class shirts and pants. He did most of his binge buying not just during offer but often, after the new purchase arrived. Interestingly after heavy buying, he will returned them, knowing he could not afford them. Then she would visit the mall again, look for the same items and buy them again. This has become ridiculous ritual. He was distraught and slowly realized that he has some kind of compulsion.

How to advice Lan?

Lan should be advised to have a “conversation” with the new accessories he bought before he made his next purchase, as a way to put some distance between himself and his compulsion. Lan should have said, ‘You are so beautiful, I can’t live without you; I love your appearance,’ “The accessories would say back, ‘You need me. You look powerful when you use me.’ Lan would say, ‘I do need you. I can’t possibly think of being without you. But something has to change. I need to stop this. I can’t afford a single cent any more.’

There may not be many people yet who become shopaholic in the state which I work now. Reasons because the shopping outlets are limited, the branded apparels are scarce and people prefer to shop at the cheaper outlets near the border or at the night market. Nevertheless, the common phenomenon seen over here among men is the obsession to modify their car with latest accessories to the extend that they buy things they do not need and often cannot afford, and place their work, their families in jeopardy. There are cases that they are so personalize with their newly modified car and disallow other family members including the wife to drive. They are willing to buy another car for the wife provided that she did not share or use his car.

The desire to spent on lavish goods is observed among middle to high class professionals and businessmen. There is a common quotation: “I must use Merc, be it old or new”. Merc is the symbol to show off to the extended relatives and clients that one is successful and the relatives or clients will therefore think that the person have lots of money and have to be respected and consulted. I think it is OK for those who really can afford it but it is pity for the charlatan businessmen or managers.

Well, let me stop here and share with you the famous tag by Nabil Raja lawak, “Lu fikirlah sendiri..”

Jaluluddin ar-Rumi


Jaluluddin ar-Rumi was born in 1207 in Balkh, Afghanistan When he was 12, his family left the country to escape the Mongol invasion. His family performed the pilgrimage in Mecca adn finally settled in Konya, Turkey, at that time part of the Seljuk Empire. Konya was the center of learning during Rumi’s time.

Rumi from an early age, studied religious sciences with his father, who is an eminent theological, a great teacher and da’ie (preacher). Rumi also went to Aleppo and Damascus to study with some of the greatest religious minds of the time.

His major works include the Mathnawi, the Koran in Persian and many poetry on subject related to Sufism. He undoubtedly stands out as the supreme genius of Islamic mysticism.

As a philosopher, he is a man of profound insight into the nature of mind including the nature of instincts, the power of reason over instincts, the nature of the self, of consciousness and the unconscious.

So, we have valid reasons to believe that Islamic scientists and academicians must acquire eminent brain, mind and soul to emulate great people from the past for the enlightenment of the future.

ADHD or Conduct? Obviously a Mischievous Child!


Jingo was a problem child. The psychiatrist thought his parents on some basic parenting skills i.e play with him and proper role-modeling.

One day, the father was trying to practice the advice and told the child, “I’ll get you anything you want to eat”.

Jingo thought for a moment. “I want an earthworm”. In the backyard the father found one. He set before Jingo.

“I want it cooked”. Jingo ordered. The father took it back to the kitchen and boiled it.

Jingo ordered it critically, “You eat half”. He told his father, “and I’ll eat the other half”.

The long suffering father managed to choke down half the earthworm. Suddenly Jingo let out a wild yowl: “You ate my half!”.

The Skill of Storytelling


It comes to a point when I write straight from my mind as if someone sings his fovourite song straight from his heart. Writing has become the art. Storytelling is the skill.

When I listen to presentation given by my students, one obvious shortcoming is that their presentations lack the art of storytelling.

Psychiatric presentation is sligtly different from medical presentation in such a way that students have to present symptom history (psychopathology) as well as chronology of events. In some cases, students just concentrate on chronology of events without probing much on psychopathology. How can they make a diagnosis if symptom history is incomplete?

During presentation, students have to make sure that the audience understands the story line. The presenter has to remember that many people have short attention span particularly if the story they listen is not properly organized. The audience has to depend on imagination and visualzation. Therefore, the presenter has to take the story as close to them as he can. In order to make sure the audience ‘feels’ the presentation, the presenter must try to stimulate the audience senses through vivid account of the incident using powerful choice of words.

More often than not, the presenter tends to forget on providing the setting of events as well as the traits of the charactor. That is why the presentation appears dull and dry.

Last but not least, keep the story short. Lengthy storytelling may easily makes the audience sleeps.

Good Luck.

Female dominance in Malaysian Varsity


This year intake to local universities is dominated again by girls. It is not surprising that 65% or 2 out of 3 successful applicants this year are girls since girls work much harder than boys. Boys are playful and not serious enough in their study. Imposing quota will only create ill-feeling and injustice since those girls that we are talking about might be our daughters, nieces and girl-friends.

There are many reasons why girls seem to dominate university entrance. I believe, our educational highway provides lot of exits for boys to stop by. Take for example, GIAT MARA, community college and polytechnic. To some extent, it is good to provide vocational training for those who cannot pursue their study in a scholarly pedantic way. Unfortunately, many would just stop over and find easy way out to earn little money to support their life. In doing so, many find hard to pursue their study as a result of heavy commitment to the new life.

Malay society in particular impose many rules and restrictions to girls. They are expected to behave in some particular ways. In many situations, girls are expected to help raising younger siblings when parents go to work. They clean the house, cook food for their family and complement domestic duties of the mother. When they grow-up, they seem to master their live in a short span of time. As we were told by a scholar, “If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders.” Responsibility makes girls work hard in school. As a result, many earn good points or CGPAs which entitle them to take up good courses in university.

Epidemiological studies on the prevalence of child and adolescent psychiatric disorders world wide revealed that boys outnumbered girls in the prevalence of externalizing problem behaviors such as ADHD, conduct and oppositional defiant disorders as well as substance abuse and dependence. Many of them would be school drop-outs and would likely to acquire low salary jobs and suffer tremendous life events such as financial and marital problems which later lead to substance abuse and dependence. The figure released by National Anti-Narcotic Agency showed that majority (97.3%) of drug addicts in rehabilitation centers throughout the country are male.

So, let us resort back to the statement released by Datuk Dr Radin Umar Radin Sohadi, DG of Higher Education Dept, Ministry of Higher Education that the Ministry is not gender biased and there is no way the ministry can stabilize university intake involving genders as admission is strictly based on meritocracy. So keep the status quo, please..

Emotions Travel


I was away for the last 2 days attending Meeting on Portal Health, my uncle’s funeral and the Malaysian Conference of Psychological Medicine in KL.

It seems that in the last 2 days I was busy catching up stories with relatives and friends. At the same time, there has been an admixture of feeling from happiness, sad and sorrow to grief and bereavement.

I join my friends in the Ministry of Health to congratulate those who had been appointed to JUSA C. I think, it is an achievement of the life time. Personally, I am not sure whether I could be at par with them or not.

As a result of grief, I had published on my blog word of condolences which says everything from my heart (Memperkasa Paradigma). It was a great loss to me personally. For one who had experienced losing both parents, losing a father-figure is really a blow to the fragile self.

It is also a happiest moment meeting Professor Malhi since we last met and had a lunch together in Singapore last year.

My journey end up well after attending two meetings on agalomelatine and paliperidone depot injection. Nevertheless, my emotional journey continues to flourish my heart and soul so long as I live and breath on the realm of this temporal world (selagi hayat dikandung badan).

Bye

Tips to Balance Your Work and Your Personal Life


1. Take vacations.

2. Find a retreat.

3. Don’t take work home.

4. Stay active in a hobby.

5. Escape for few minutes each day. Pray.

6. Take maximum advantahe of technology.

7. Delegate greater responsibility to subordinates.

8. Limit travel.

9. Ask your spouse for feedback.

10. Reserve time each day for children.